We’re in the middle of May now, and for many families, life feels like it’s moving at full speed. Between school events, practices, games, concerts, tournaments, and graduation parties, family schedules can quickly become overwhelming. As parents of teenagers, Ginny and I have found ourselves having those familiar moments of clarity where we say we need to slow down and be more intentional with our time as a family. Especially when it comes to spiritual things.
Of course, like most of you, we go to church together, we pray before meals, and we talk about faith when opportunities come up. But deep down, we often feel the desire to do more. We make plans and set goals with the best intentions, but many times we fall short. It’s easy to blame exhaustion or busyness, but if I’m honest, I can usually find time for things far less important than the spiritual well-being of my family.
I think many parents can relate to that feeling. We want our children to know and love God deeply, but the pace of life can make meaningful connection difficult. When our kids are little, it feels like we have endless years ahead of us, but before long they grow up and begin lives of their own. Because of that, family time becomes more valuable with every passing year. The moments we have now matter deeply, and we don’t get them back.
One of the problems is the phrase “make more time.” The truth is, none of us can create more time. God has already given us a limited number of hours each day. What we can do is become more intentional within the rhythm of life we already have.
Every family has a different rhythm. Some are constantly on the go, while others spend quiet evenings at home. Some connect over long drives to ballgames, others around dinner tables or late-night conversations. No two families are alike, but within every family rhythm are opportunities for spiritual connection.
Often, the most meaningful discipleship doesn’t happen in grand family devotionals or perfectly planned moments. It happens through small conversations, faithful consistency, shared experiences, and simply being present when opportunities come.
As our children get older, Ginny and I are learning that one of the greatest gifts we can give them is our attention. In a world constantly competing for our focus, choosing to slow down and prioritize family is one of the most valuable decisions we can make.
Maybe the goal isn’t to completely overhaul our schedules or create the perfect spiritual routine. Maybe it’s simply becoming more aware of the opportunities God has already placed within the rhythm of our everyday lives. Times like a conversation in the car, a prayer before bed, a discussion after a game, or a family dinner.
Those moments may seem small, but over time they shape hearts, strengthen families, and point our children toward Christ.
“Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time” Ephesians 5:15–16